Okay ladies. Do you want to know the truth? There are no shortage of men in London. As a matter of fact, as a massive mega-city men from every corner of the world are piled up everywhere. So, if you have moved to this city in order to date and to possibly meet Mr Right, it is your lucky day. You will have endless, ENDLESS dates if you just put in the effort.
So far I am up to four. Since I began dating in the city (four months after I moved over), I have been on dates with four different guys from multiple sides of the world (Australia, Spain, and for some reason, two Irish guys). It is a Pu Pu Platter of endless choices when it comes to dating in London.
It has been overall successful thus far, but I have made a few observations about how dating differs between dating in London and in North America (with the exception of New York because it is also a really big city). First, unless you meet guys through your friends/acquaintances, it is really difficult to really know who you are dating. For example, London is over 600 square miles. It is really difficult to know if who you are dating has another relationship or has another life somewhere in this city. You don’t automatically know what pubs they may frequent, and how they spend their weekends.
When I dated in Toronto, I could tell what someone’s network of friends was simply by knowing where they spent their Friday nights. In London, this is not so easy.
Second, language differences is another issue. Again, there are men living in London coming from every corner of the world. It is intimidating to know that some people speak 2, 3, or five different languages! I dated a guy that was not so fluent in English. At first, it was really fun. Our exchanges were cute and playful. Each time that I was able to “crack the code” of what he was trying to tell me, it was like a rush of energy. A triumph. After six dates, the novelty of our language difference faded (or perhaps it was our chemistry that faded). Whatever. You get the idea.
Third, THERE ARE SO MANY PLACES TO GO ON DATES! London is truly amazing for dating. There is not shortage of galleries, cafes, comedy clubs, and restaurants to have a first date. Seriously, I have never been to the same date location twice since I started dating in London.
Fourth, there is a lot of hope in London dating. There are people arriving and departing every day. So much diversity and uniqueness. There are people doing incredible and magnificent things here. One works for the BBC, the other is an statistician hoping to start a gourmet food truck, and yet another is a wine expert. The possibilities are endless. You can truly meet some inspiring people.
I suppose that with such a fast-paced, transient city, it could be expected that no one ever settles down because they are overwhelmed with dating options. I guess to some extent that can be true. But, I have also learned that men and women alike want to find love in a large city like London because it can be lonely here. At the end of a dark, wet day, after a long and cold commute home, don’t we all want someone and somewhere warm to come home to? My guess that with astronomical housing prices, most Londoners are motivated to find “the one” in order to take the pressure off of their wallet, their heart, and the burden of trying to make it here alone.